Falling In Love With a New Man After Having a Baby
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Suddenly, once my baby arrived, a whole new man arrived in my life also. My baby’s father. He was the same man I married, but all of a sudden I was seeing an entirely new side to him, a version of him I had never met before. It was like meeting a stranger, a wonderful, familiar stranger.
I had fallen in love with my husband many years ago for his sincere and compassionate character, his honesty and his integrity. He has always been strong, and he has always stood up for what is right…and in the eleven years that I have known him he has never told a lie. That man is the man I married, the love of my life, and the one I chose to start a family with.
What I didn’t know about having a baby is how much it changes you as a person, how it tests your patience and your capacity to love to the absolute limit. How you must become totally selfless in your devotion to this new helpless child, and how much the sleep deprivation, anxiety and monotony of childcare really pushes you to breaking point.
It’s a journey you go on, a huge life change and it would be impossible to embark upon it and be left unchanged.
It has been one of the hardest and most rewarding things we have ever done, becoming parents, some days we cry because we are so exhausted and stressed, and other days we cry with joy at how much happiness it has brought us.
For me, having children has been life changing and I am an entirely different person because of it.
And everything I went through as a mother, my husband went through too, and I suddenly saw this brand new side to him. I saw him rocking a baby for hours on end to comfort her, I saw him breathing in her smell and wiping up the spilled milk on her face with the gentlest touch, I saw him watching her sleep in her basket with such intense love in his eyes, I saw him as I had never seen him before. I saw him as a loving father.
I didn’t think I could love my husband any more than I already did, he was already everything to me. My best friend, my soul mate, my partner in crime, my confidante, my adviser, my defender…but now he was something else, now he was the most wonderful father to my children and I think this new man may in fact be my favourite of them all.
About the Author
Kate is a mother of two living in York in the UK, she left her career in psychology to start a family and has never looked back. She blogs about trying to build her own fairytale around the challenges of raising children.