Have you ever been in a situation where you want to confront the person but then don’t in light of not trying to deal with an argument?
I wanted to write it out here, and maybe it will save me an argument.
My husband went to another friends wedding for like 6 days, leaving yesterday. This is the second friends wedding of his that I did not go to. Now, keep in mind that we live across the country and have a 2 year old and buying plane tickets for all of us, taking time off from work, days on vacation, hotel rooms, traveling time, etc. would probably be too much. So I mean I totally get it – and I know what it’s like when he is with his friends – drinking, drinking, drinking and me watching our daughter. It most likely would not be very fun.
My issue is, I kind of feel left out. I know its kind of silly to feel like this since I was the one who chose not to go and such, but it’s almost like I am not a part of his “friends” lives. At both weddings, he had way more fun if I was not there. Again, I know how silly I sound, but that is how I feel. I just feel left out, and like he is totally okay with it because it allows him to be basically free with no responsibilities. And then I am at home, taking care of our daughter, the house, the dog, the cat, all of the responsibilities, while he is out having a great time, for many days.
I guess it is better to write it out, than fight it out. I have a lot of stress with him being gone and having to deal with everything, so to add a fighting conversation on top of it, really not worth it.
Does this happen to normal people and couples? Or is this way out of the ballpark here? I know our situation is not totally normal… but it would be nice to see any comments!