Dating involves a plethora of social interactions, and can certainly get overwhelming at times. Moreover, the concept of dating may appeal to only a few women. Why, you ask? Well, it is not easy being vulnerable. Opening up to a stranger and potentially putting your heart on the line, it takes a lot of guts to do that.
More often than not, we have encountered successful women who preferred staying single instead of dating. This is because sometimes, with professional success, comes a deep fear of losing out on other life experiences due to being committed. While this is completely understandable anxiety, the good news is, you do not have to limit yourself to success only on the professional front. Navigating the dating world is a herculean task at times, which is why we are here to help you.
How To Conquer Dating Anxiety?
1. Practice self-care
The first step in getting an upper hand over anxiety is to understand and recognize the significance you hold in your life and the lives of those around you. The way to do this is to practice self-care. Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically will help reduce anxiety and increase your self-confidence. To achieve this, engage in activities that bring you a deep sense of happiness and comfort. Make self-care a non-negotiable part of your daily routine. Keep in mind that everyone makes mistakes and experiences numerous setbacks when it comes to dating, so you should not be too harsh on yourself.
2. Challenge negative emotions
One of the main contributors to dating anxiety is negative thinking patterns. These can stem from self-doubt or worries over rejection. Overcoming anxiety in dating can only be possible when these negative emotions are replaced by more positive and practical considerations. For this, you can begin by understanding the pattern of your negative emotions and examining their invalidity. Are your negative emotions based on simple thoughts or past experiences? Are you letting your past dictate your present? Keep in mind that you can successfully challenge negative emotions only when you have understood what they stem from.
3. Be mindful
Practicing mindfulness is a game-changer when it comes to shooing away feelings of anxiety and self-doubt. Mindfulness involves being aware of the present and living in that present, instead of worrying about the future or being hung up on the past. Learning how to be mindful can also help people channel their negative thoughts and regulate their emotions. Living in the present moment is more difficult than it sounds because it involves rooting yourself in the present and taking mindful decisions that affect your life.
To practice mindfulness, you should also use meditation, breathing exercises and relaxation techniques to live fully in the present moment.
4. Seek support
Seeking support from friends and family as well as professionals can go a long way in helping you become less anxious about dating scenarios. Share your troubles and anxieties with a trusted friend or family member who will listen to you and provide invaluable reassurance. If your anxiety continues to persist, consider speaking to a professional who specializes in treating anxiety disorders. He/she can help personalize your treatment by giving you particular exercises and coping strategies. If you want to overcome anxiety specifically related to dating, a dating coach can also help you develop your self-confidence.
5. Build up confidence
Did you know that confidence is among the most desirable qualities people look for in their partners? Building confidence when overcoming dating anxiety is very important. Learn how to invest more time into yourself and the activities you like. In addition to this, explore other activities that challenge your skills and help you learn new experiences. All of this will help you build up confidence and this is a big step towards finding your life partner.
6. Expose yourself gradually to different situations
When it comes to dating anxiety, you could either face your fears head-on or take it slow and adjust yourself to your surroundings. We recommend that you slowly put yourself in dating situations, taking it one step at a time. A lot of women feel that dating always has to do with a man becoming the “boyfriend”, and this can be a pretty scary idea when you have issues with commitment. Therefore, instead of thinking about the man as a potential boyfriend, think of him as simply a male companion. Make friendship the base of your relationship and it will automatically make things much easier.
7. Work on your communication skills
Using effective communication strategies is one of the main things that can make a relationship work out. Many times, women fail to deliver their true intent to potential partners because of poor communication skills. When it comes to dating, there should be open and honest communication between both parties, which should stem from mutual respect and understanding. You will see that as long as you improve your communication skills, dating in itself will appear to be less of a scare for you.
Remember that anything will become easier with practice. The same goes for dating. Sure, it can be daunting and involves taking risks. At the same time, it is a wonderful opportunity to grow as a human being and gather more life experiences. It is a completely untrue belief that successful women seldom have successful romantic relationships. Break the wheel. Change the narrative. It all begins with you.