My husband’s father passed away this week. He was young, 51. Very sad. We were not close to him unfortunately. My husband and him are very stubborn men and last year around this very same time they had a falling out, causing both men not to talk to each other. They stood their grounds. Neither gave in.
I cannot imagine what he feels. I do not know how to approach the situation with talking to him about it. I do not want to start saying things like this that maybe he hasn’t thought of or were never in his mind and I don’t want to be the one to bring them up.
I know he is hurting and I have no idea how to help. I feel very helpless. He wants to go to the funeral alone and I am not sure if that is what a good wife should do or not.
In times of a loved one losing a life, there are so many questions unanswered and steps that should be taken that no one really knows what to do or how to do them. There is nothing you can say that can make things better or change anything.
Time just needs to heal. Right now this time is making them stronger and standing by their side. I hope I am doing the right thing and I hope I am helping and not making things worse.