Becoming a new mom is a terrifying experience. You spend your whole life worrying about yourself and then all of a sudden now you have to worry about your own little tiny human.
It can be a lot to cope with, and if you’re anything like me, then you will probably spend the majority of your pregnancy second guessing yourself. I’m here to say, with all the love that I can muster, to STOP IT!
I Never Wanted Kids
I spent my whole life saying that I didn’t want children. They were weird, and creepy, and gross, and I wanted nothing to do with them.
Every time I saw a pregnant woman, I would think about the movie Alien. You know the part when the thing pops out of her belly? Yeah, that. Not very maternal.
Then my husband came along.
I told him from the get go that I didn’t want kids. He had a daughter already so I told him he needed to be fine with her being his only child. Though he still wanted another child, he said he wouldn’t push me.
And thankfully he didn’t. What I didn’t count on were the stupid hormones.
My husband and I had been married for a while, things were going pretty well for us, and I was comfortable in our relationship, so I started considering it.
Well we did it, we got pregnant, and then the panicking started.
I questioned everything! My ability to be a mother, whether I had made a huge mistake, whether I would regret my decision later, whether I would love my baby, and so much more.
I really started to believe that my aversion to children before would reflect my ability to be a good mom.
It took a long time and a lot of convincing from my husband for me to shut up about it. Even then, the thoughts were still there.
The day my son was born though, everything changed. It was like the world finally shifted and came into focus. At that moment, I finally understood what all of the other women I had spoken to were talking about.
They always said that you’ll get it when you have your own. Well I got it.
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Everyone is Different
Now, I’m not saying that everyone’s situation will be completely the same. If there’s one thing that I learned during my pregnancy, it’s that every pregnancy, mother, and baby are all completely different. As much as I hated hearing that when I was pregnant, I realize that it is completely true.
Every woman will have her own unique experience when she becomes a mother. It’s almost like a rite of passage.
The important thing to remember though, if you’re doing all of that second guessing like I was, is that what will happen will happen.
There is no changing anything now. You have little to no control over the whole process, so there really isn’t any reason to be stressing about it.
Moms are Amazing
Just take the time to relax during your pregnancy. Check in with your body and marvel at the amazing things that it is doing. You’re building a baby. A real, honest to god, person right there inside of you! I didn’t realize how truly awe-inspiring women actually were until I became a mom.
So just relax. Tell hubby to give you a foot massage and to bow down and worship the beautiful life-giving goddess that you are.
When your baby comes, you will become a mom, and in that moment, you’ll understand and all of your worries will vanish.
Until then, enjoy the extra sleep. You’re going to need it.
Until next time!
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