Are you struggling to find normalcy within your relationship? For those of us with kids, finding time for a regularly scheduled date night may be more difficult than we ever imagined. Especially with the kids being home a whole lot more lately. With these simple tips, we are going to provide you with our best tips and tricks to keep your relationship stronger than ever!
Make It a Habit
They say that it only takes 66 days to solidify a new habit. Now while we are not asking you to start running 5 miles every day, or drink a gallon of water by 9 PM every evening, a simple once a month commitment to your partner can make all the difference in the strength and endurance of your relationship.
Consistency is key, and when you are regularly investing in your relationship, it opens up all sorts of doors to build up interpersonal communication skills, your romantic life, and possibly even build lost confidence in your relationship! Taking a few hours each month may not seem like a pivotal event when you are managing multiple family timelines and balancing work or your children in school as well, but honoring your partner and reconnecting with them regularly may be exactly what you both need to fall for each other all over again.
Move Some Stuff Around
Our days are more jam packed than ever; appointments, meetings, sports practice for our littles. It can feel daunting and overwhelming to have to manage all of that time. Our time is more sacred to us now than it has ever been, and what we do with that time can change so much for your relationship. Some of these changes you never knew you wanted or needed!
Maybe it seems impossible, but try shifting one weekly or monthly responsibility to open up two to three hours on a regular day of the week or month that works for the both of you. This might take some compromise. Someone skipping their favorite gym time to instead have a “date lunch Tuesday” or missing your book club once every month for your monthly “date night.” Whatever that may look like for both of you, find a time that may work with both of your schedules, and cling tightly to the engagement for a few months and see how much closer you two feel to one another. We promise, it’s worth it!
Keep It Simple
You don’t even have to leave the house. It could be a wine and cheese night at home, or a walk through your favorite place. You don’t even need to get dressed up to reconnect and enjoy time with your partner. So just keep it simple and get creative!
You don’t even have to drop a lump sum of money over your regular date night if you don’t want to. While a dinner and a movie may work for some, maybe you both just aren’t that type of couple, or your wallet won’t let you be that couple… Just order a pizza instead and watch your favorite movies back to back after the kids have gone to sleep on a Friday night! The possibilities are endless on this one!
Get It Delivered
This one makes date night even easier. There are companies out there that will deliver date night activities and games right to your door. With the intention of growing your relationship with your partner and allowing the opportunity to reconnect and laugh, this date night box is a monthly subscription that is delivered right to your doorstep. Their goal is for you to be able to stay in those pajamas (if you’d like) and grant you both the freedom to be yourselves and have fun together.
It is an easy option on the wallet and an investment that is worth every penny in the long term for you and your significant other. There are many options out there if you are the type of couple that loves the privacy of home for those intimate date nights you are hoping for.
Break a Sweat
Maybe you both are an active couple, but don’t have the schedules required to make it to the gym together. Incorporating a mutual exercise goal, or syncing up on a fitness tracking app can really help sparks fly between you both on the daily. Even if you can’t find the time to exercise together in person, that doesn’t mean you can’t reach your goals together!
Create a Healthy Dessert
We all know what it’s like to get that craving for something we know we probably shouldn’t have. Eating an entire carton of ice cream kind of defeats the purpose of that hard workout you just did. Sorry but it’s true! There is a better way! Below we listed some delicious healthy alternatives to eating an entire box of Oreos. The best part? You can make them together so you are bonding with your partner while baking AND eating!
Recipes for when the chocolate cravings hit:
Or if you both are feeling a little fruity, try these: Healthy Fruit Salsa with Cinnamon Sugar Pita Chips, Greek Yogurt Oat Blueberry Muffins, or Baked Raspberry Donuts
To Wrap Up
We know that finding time may be difficult when your life’s going 100 miles per minute, but with these simple tips and small changes to your schedules, it can make a world of difference for you and your partner. Date nights open up relational doors to areas of growth many people do not even see until they spend that intimate one-on-one time with their loved ones. By allowing that time, you are setting the other person up to win, and serving them with an open heart and mind. We hope that these tips help you shift your relationships into an even healthier direction than before and that these tools can help equip both of you to tackle any seasons that are to come.