A Love Letter to my Son
The first time I met you, you were two pink lines on a pregnancy test. I had no clue who you’d be, but even more so I had no clue who I would be, now that you were in my life. For the nine months, you were inside my womb, I grew more and more enamored with you. I memorized the feeling of your movements, I knew exactly which of your feet pushed up into my rib cage every night as I lay in bed, and every morning as I rode the bus to work. Staring at the ultrasound photo of your profile, and I swore you looked like your Dad – even at 20 weeks new. More than anything, from the day I knew I was pregnant, I knew I loved you more than anything I would ever love in this world.
Son, you are a prodigy for me. But there are a few things I would like to share as your inheritance from my soul. That is the little experience I have gained in my life. These may be words you might already know and believe in but I still want to express them to you, as my ultimate gift. Remember my son, whatever you face, whether the darkness or light, whether storm or a rainbow, it’s all a part of life, and they are present to only give you experience. The universe never wants us to face any misfortune or tough times, always find what the hidden wisdom is from the situations. That’s exactly where you are directed. I am going to unfold the wisdom, however little, which I have been presented from life, for you
My love is for you is unconditional
My love for you is fierce and unchanging, unrelenting, unconditional, and protective. If there’s one thing I hope you know, and hold dear to your heart no matter where life takes you, it’s that I love every part of who you are, from the top of your head, down to your jelly bean toes. I loved you when you were in my arms for the first time, eyes wide open, ready to take in this whole new world. Every hour I spent with you asleep in my arms I loved you, and I loved you every hour you were awake in the night.
Through every tear – from your eyes and mine. I loved you through every fear, every “what if?”, every “I can’t do this”, and every “I CAN do this!”. Every mistake, every struggle, every unknown – I loved you through it all.
The little wrinkle in your nose when you smile so big. I love how you’re so inquisitive, so curious and determined like your Dad. And I even love that you have a little bit of me in you too – even if it’s my quick frustration and impatience. Your gentleness, chubby hands, two-tooth smile, and your blonde hair that I’m still not sure where it came from – I love every bit.
Always Be Yourself
My darling, the most important thing I want you to firmly believe in your life is “BE YOURSELF”. There is no ideal perfection when it comes to humans. We don’t look alike than how exactly can our qualities, capabilities, choices, emotions, desires be the same? If ever perfection exists, it is simply the satisfaction of being you. When you start embracing the way you are, you start living. Without it, you are just breathing. Don’t let anyone ever pressure you to attain their level of perfection. “You are perfect, just the way you are”. Never try to hide your preferences, learn to express yourself without the fear of being judged. This does not totally mean, don’t consider anyone’s suggestion or guidance. Guidance is absolutely different from choosing to be you. When someone is guiding you, they want you to make the best version of yourself. But when someone is imposing and asking you to change, that’s exactly where you need to take a stance.
It’s Okay to Fail
We always hear people saying things like if you keep on trying then it’s not a failure, try until you succeed. Yes. Keep on trying and don’t lose hope while having faith in you. But remember to accept that you failed and then start again. Don’t let your pride stop you from accepting your falls. Until and unless you accept you failed, you will never analyze what went wrong and where you need to improve for better results. Take a break. Cry a little. Vent it out. And start again in a fresh mind. Appreciate yourself for all the efforts you have given regardless of the results you gained. This will keep you more motivated and help you excel more.
Success is What you Define
Success can mean several things for different people. For someone, it might be buying that favorite car, getting that desired job, or maybe just eating the last slice of pizza after a huge tug-of-war. Your dreams don’t always have to be grand. Even the simplest things can make you happy. If success for you is finally sleeping all weekend after working hard all week, it’s okay. Because after all, you are the one succeeding then why should you measure it with someone else’s scale? If you want to achieve something grand, believe in it. Don’t let the discouraging words of others put your spirit down. Always know that they didn’t reach because they never tried enough. You can’t achieve something very grand on one single day like it took nine months to have a blessing like you. So, don’t overthink if it takes time.
Don’t Feel Indebted Towards us
My son always is grateful or values the happy moments you get from the people around you. Never forget to return an act of kindness. It would be really nice if you appreciated our efforts sometimes. But, never feel indebted towards us. All the efforts we have ever given to you, it was because we wanted to. Never compromise your dreams and desires just to keep us happy. We must love you, it’s no favor. Anyways we won’t be able to stop loving you. So, live your life to the fullest. Seeing you happy is all we want. Fly high with the wings of fire.
Love Never Dies
This is something, you might experience at a later age, but don’t judge love based on the experience you had with other people. The relationships you have with other people depend solely on you and the people involved. When things don’t work out, we tend to mistrust the feeling of love altogether. Cursing love, trust, emotions, etc. becomes normal for us. And at one point in time, we stop believing in the magic of love. My little one, even I have gone through this phase. But after meeting your father I realized it’s not true. Real love had nothing to do with the relationships we go through. We can’t meet our soul mates on the first trial (Well I hope you do). So, don’t lose hope. Remember, with the right person love excels. Mistrust is a form of fear. It’s the fear to accept the pain. Don’t let it overcome you. Keep believing and trying until you meet the one, and decide to spend your lives with. Because true love never dies.
I will always love you
I will love you when you find your independence. When you’d rather be running, jumping, and discovering than snuggling up to me. I will love you when you need discipline, and I need to say “no”. I will love you when you’d rather be with your friends, and I’ll love you when you’re embarrassed by me. I’ll love you when you’re sick, and I’ll love you when you’re well. I’ll love you when you’re angry, when you’re confused, frustrated, struggling to find yourself. Even I’ll love you when you’re unsure, scared, sad. And I’ll love you when you’re full of joy, happiness, laughter, and peace.
When you’re older
Even as you grow older, I will love you when you move away when you’re on your own when you’re not missing me the way I will miss you. When you fail when you succeed when you make mistakes, and when you do everything right, I will love you. As you get heartbroken, and I’ll love you when you find love that makes your heart soar, I will love you. I’ll love you on your wedding day, and when you have a family of your own. Changing into the husband you’ll be, the father you’ll be, I will love you.
I loved you before I even knew you, I love you now, every day in between, and every day after this one. I hope with my whole heart that I can teach you to love others the way that you are loved.
All this advice above, I read it from the pages of my life. But don’t just rely on this book. Write your own. You can use this just as a reference though. But it’s just to give you an idea of how to extract the knowledge or help you when you get lost while writing. Maybe someday, you would write a letter to your son like this too. In the end, don’t forget to write this.
“I will always love you.”
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